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When a clinician cares more about getting your diagnosis correct and just judging you by that diagnosis ... they are not listening to the root cause of why you have it ... and therefore your likelihood of ever getting better is slim to none as you aren't working on changing what needs to be changed! For example, if you have a piece of glass in your leg, and I diagnose you as having chronic pain ... and give you coping skills to deal with the pain, and meds to help you manage the pain, and talk to you about how you feel about the pain ... NONE OF THAT SHIT is actually doing anything about the fucking glass! Its the same damn thing with most in mental health, especially addiction! In addiction everyone wants to talk about the DOC or drug of choice. BUT the issues is, the drug itself isn't the fucking problem. The problem is WHY the drug is a problem to begin with! For example, say you have an issue with drinking. I would say that you don't have an issue with alcohol but an issue with how you see yourself! The alcohol is just something that we can 'diagnose' and bill. The real issue might be that you don't think you are good enough or you are beating yourself up for something you did in your past or whatever. But all the addiction treatment centers are just focused on giving you coping skills to deal with the pain in your leg and totally missing the fucking piece of glass that is sticking out! This concept, although seemingly simple enough, is beyond the mental grasp of the majority of mental health professional I have talked with. They argue that they MUST have a diagnosis in order to help people ... yet preachers, teachers, friends, relatives, and even kids help people all the time without a fucking diagnosis ... not to mention all the Easter Practitioners that don't even believe in a diagnosis. Until the profession cares more about helping people excess in their lives, like with Positive Psychology, instead of trying to figure out what is "wrong" with people ... your loved ones to include yourself, will keep running around chasing your tail instead of getting down to real treatment, which looks a lot more like a conversation than a treatment plan. May your life always be whatever you say it is!
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This is something that I've learned in my last month of being in extreme quiet and solitude ... while being alone and not working. I literally spoke more and to more people in about 1/2 hours time as i have over the last month! I have no daily human connections, no social medial, and minimal texts ... just me, my thoughts and my dog Dexter. People say that they care about you, people talk about things like having your back and being there for you, but when it really comes down to it ~ except for the extreme few and the extreme situations ... people don't really give a fuck about anyone but themselves and their own situations. Out of sight ... out of mind. Now, when you understand psychology, I honestly ask who could blame them. You see, when people live in a constant state of stress - living like they have a tiger chasing them 24/7 ~ the ego becomes very selfish and focused on material things ... as that is what will hep the ego survive the 'attack.' So , in todays world of "something" is going to kill everyone at any moment ... no one gives a fuck about you or what's going on in your life, as they are just trying to survive their own 'attack'. They say, whoever the hell "they" are, that when the student is ready that the teacher will appear. For me, my most recent teacher has been silence ... emptiness ... alonenesss. It taught me to look into my own thoughts and actions to see what was missing from myself that I was seeking to find fulfillment in others. It taught me to find happiness and peace within and not seek it in outer things or in other people. It has ultimately taught me to be ok with myself and provided me an even deeper understanding in the tings that i was still judging in the world and in people around me. As at first, I was resentful of others, I was jealous, I was angry, all because people were not doing or responding in the way that I 'though' ... aka judged ... that they should be. Imagine, life not being exactly the way I wanted, boo hoo, poor me lol. Once I realized that it was these thoughts that were creating my current "dis-ease" with myself and the world, I was able to redirect my thinking and my judgement, which allowed me to be 'free' within the world again and not be spun around by it because I was holding on trying to control things. Now, I'm still alone but not lonely. I'm still in silence but I enjoy it without judgement. I still sit in the quiet of the house but I now do so in the calm of my own mind. It is true freedom to be able to be all alone with your self and your thoughts without any influence or reflection from the outside world and be at peace with everything. So I would challenge each of you ... even if you can't see a "person" to look around and see how many 'teachers' you might personally have around you just waiting for you to realize they are there so that you can learn from them. May your life always be whatever you say it is. Hello Sports Fans!
Talk about a difficult 'pill' to swallow eh? Most people want to point fingers and blame all the 'things' and 'people' around them for their current circumstances in life. However, YOU are where the buck stops my friend. If YOU don't like what's going on in your life ... CHANGE IT! Could there be people who are going to make that more difficult? Yep. Could there be life circumstances that are going to make that more difficult? Yep. BUT ... until YOU decide that YOU are the captain of your fate, you are left to the chances and drift of life. Basically you just get the table scraps instead of the real meal that you could be enjoying. ALL because, you still believe that your life is everyone else's problem. So stop bitching about what you don't have. Stop bitching about where you are in life. Stop bitching that this or that isn't fair. And START doing something TODAY to change those things. You know why you are still where you are in life? Because you didn't do anything DIFFERENT YESTERDAY to change today! As long as you keep repeating the same old shit you are going to get the same old results. You MUST learn to think higher than you currently feel. As most people, especially in the beginning or when times get tough, don't "feel" like doing the hard work! It is soooo much easier to just sit back and complain and point fingers and keep feeling sorry for ourselves, then to actually get in there and do the hard work. So let me ask. Are you doing your daily breathing? Are you drinking water? Are you maintaining your daily self-care by bathing and shaving and doing your hair and makeup? Are you walking around your block? I ask these things because, if you won't fucking 'breath' on purpose, you aren't going to do the hard shit. If you won't drink a glass of water to help your brain and body, you won't do the hard shit. If you won't get out of bed and wash your ass and brush your teeth and comb your hair, you aren't going to do the hard shit! It's just that fucking simple. Chaning your life begins with the little things. It's about changing your daily habits, your daily routines, your daily thought patterns, your daily food choices, your daily actives ... you must change YOU if you want to wake up one day and not be the you that you currently are! So look in the mirror. That's who you need to hold accountable for where you are. That's who you need to depend on to get you to where you want to be. End of fucking list! Now. GO DO THE WORK! |
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